Ban Bossy?

I'm sure by now most people have heard or seen this little PSA about banning the word "bossy" because apparently its damaging to young girls and women everywhere. http://hollywoodlife.com/2014/03/10/beyonces-new-campaign-to-empower-young-girls-ban-bossy-watch-psa/ I think that instead of banning a word we should try educating our children instead. For example, if your daughter comes home and tells you someone called her "bossy" how about we do this: "Who was it that called you bossy?" "This boy in my class." "Well, is he a nice boy, like a friend that you like or is he someone who is mean to lots of people?" Why would we want to ask this question? Here's why. If the name caller is a friend and/or someone whose opinion actually matters then we would want to find out why they called your daughter bossy. Was she being rude and just flat out telling people what to do like some sort of modern age Cleopatra and the person was simply pointing out a trait that your little angel might want to work on softening? Sometimes when kids say "bossy" what they really mean is "spoiled", "bratty" or "entitled". If the name caller is not a pal or is the classroom jerk, then really who cares what he says? You would take that opportunity to teach your daughter that sometimes people are mean for reasons we don't understand and don't have anything to do with us. Perhaps this kid was jealous, or never gets a chance to tell others what to do because he is the youngest in his family or he might just not like being told what to do by anyone even if they are being nice about it. Our daughters need to learn how to instruct, lead, inspire and direct others in a firm yet kind way and if some idiot takes that as being bossy then that is his/her problem. I think that what we need to do is teach our daughters HOW to lead well and to establish the ability to differentiate between constructive criticism that is meant to better them and the criticism that is just meant to hurt or belittle. Who cares if some boy on the playground calls you bossy? I don't and my daughter shouldn't either. Now if her siblings or friends feel that she is being bossy then by all means, call her out on it so she can LEARN to be a better leader, one that can encourage and direct instead of bark orders and make demands. As she gets older she will learn there is a time for tough words and stern attitudes. This little PSA treats our daughters as if they are these delicate little flowers that can't take it when someone says something kind of mean. I can think of a lot worse things to be called than "Bossy" and I'm sure you can too. Which is a little hypocritical of Beyonce when you think about it. Who is she married to? Rapper Jay-Z. Now, I don't listen to rap and I don't have the time to read thru every lyric for every song he has ever done, but just a quick search and I found a song titled "That's my B***h" that he did with Kayne West. So, Beyonce, perhaps you might want to have a chat with your hubby and his pals in the rap industry and discuss how demeaning, critical and offensive their lyrics about women are before you go after a rather benign word like "Bossy".